There is nothing that grips us so tightly, occupies our minds so obsessively, as troubled matters of the heart. Whether you are in the middle of a troubled relationship, waiting on the possibility, getting mixed signals, it is no fun. Today’s technology can make thing so much more difficult. You thought everything was going along fine and you find yourself blocked, cut off from all communication without a word. I find this behavior reprehensible, and inexcusable but I know many who find it an absolutely reasonable form of communication. I am told that non communication is as clear a communication as any. They may have a point but it isn’t fair to the person left wondering what the heck just happened.
Now, I am well aware that I am hearing it from the point of view of my querant, who is assuring me they never saw it coming.
Which is why I have decided to no longer do such readings. I have found that the chaotic rythmic pounding of a yearning heart in pain, creates too much scattered energy. And just because there was potential for two people to be compatible, it doesn’t mean anything if all communications have been cut off.
I have found the cards answer the question asked and often people are not forthcoming on all the details. Nothing troubles my heart like finding out, after a glowing reading on a relationships potential, that there is no communication happening. This always leads to the querants true question. ‘He(or she, or they) will call me, right?’
More often than not, the cards indicate a devastating answer.
I much rather help a person discover ways to heal and grow from such insecurities and pain, help them move past even caring if their ex is happy with their new flame.
But I understand, when the heart is gripped by such emotions and desperation, it can be hard to entertain the thought of putting the object of their affection firmly in the past. This is where dependence on tarot can occur, if the querant is successful in finding a reader who willingly does such readings, often bouncing from reader to reader, to get the answer that settles their mind, soothes their aching heart. For a time. Which leads to needing that fix again. That reassurance and validation of their feelings, that tells them they are not wrong in their feelings.
I want to help. But I want to help them find their own strength, to be whole, to heal, and to move on. Not by being another person just stringing them along.
This is not to say I don’t do any sort of relationship readings. I do help people discover what is going wrong, and how and even if their relationship can be fixed or if it is time to move on. And this is not to say I make any decisions for anyone. I just help them identify and understand what they already likely know, but can’t see it through the understandable emotional lens.
I am happily married. But I have been through it, understand it, and have empathy and compassion for those going though such dark matters of the heart. And I want to help at a spiritual level that leads to long term growth. I am willing to guide any one of my querants through it. But my querant must be ready and willing to do the work.
I am a spiritual life coach. I am not here to tell you what you want to hear or to tell you what will happen. I am here to tell you what you need to know, to grow, expand, to be the best you can be. This is the journey. This is the great work. Are you ready?
I love that you spelled this out for everyone. We are all looking for confirmation that love will work out the way we want it to. We forget, however that there is free will. Everyone has free will to make choice A or choice B or C. It may not be the choice we necessarily want to hear that the cards are telling us. Don’t shoot the messenger.
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